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Not in a suffocating way, but in the way a room feels when the lights are low and a storm is tapping at the window. For the past nine months, Tokyo has been a blur of crowded train doors, the symphony of pachinko parlors, and the polite, hurried shuffle of a million feet. But just before the birth—again—the city falls silent.
Mata ne. (See you soon.)
Japan has a word for this feeling: Ma (間). It’s the space between things. The pause between the inhale and the exhale. The silence between two notes of music. Right now, my entire body is Ma .
If you are reading this from a coffee shop in London, or a living room in New York, or a similar apartment in Osaka—take a breath. The waiting is the labor, too. The waiting is the work. Just before the birth again- Japan- Pregnant- U...
But this time, I know something I didn’t know then. I know that the pain ends. I know that the baby comes. I know that the moment they place that wet, furious, perfect creature on your chest, the world snaps back into focus.
I remember the pain of the first birth. I remember the moment the contractions stopped being “waves” and started being a house falling on my spine. I remember the kanji on the hospital wall that I couldn’t read, and the nurse who spoke only Japanese, and the terrifying moment when I realized I had to translate my own moans.
This is the Ma . The sacred pause.
I am sitting on the floor of our apartment. The zabuton cushion is flat beneath me. The kettle is humming a low, wet note. Outside, a neighbor’s wind chime ( furin ) clinks in the humid August air. And inside me, a second life is doing the strange, quiet calculus of deciding when to enter the world.
— A very pregnant mother in Tokyo.
Right now, as I type this, the baby is doing somersaults. A foot—or maybe an elbow—is dragging across my right rib. I am drinking barley tea ( mugicha ) which is supposedly cooling for the blood. I am watching the shadows grow long on the tatami mats. Not in a suffocating way, but in the
There is only the pause.
But just before the birth again, there is this. A quiet room in Japan. A full belly. A heart that is breaking and healing in the same beat.
Just Before the Birth Again: A Pause in Japan, Heavy with Waiting Mata ne
That is Japan’s gift to the pregnant woman: Anonymity. No one stares. No one touches your belly. No one asks invasive questions. They simply bow, step aside, and give you the priority seat on the train. There is a gentle, unspoken respect for the burden you carry.